Be a Cougar Instead!

No high school girl should ever even TRY to date a boy who is older than her. It can only lead you one place, heart break. First of all, they want much more physical in a relationship than a younger boy would expect. Next, they will always “think” they are more mature than you. Lastly, they will (hopefully, if they have any will to succeed in life) graduate before you, and they will without a doubt leave you behind in the ol’ high school memories. There is absolutely no way these things will allow you to have a healthy, happy relationship with said older boy.




To begin with the first problem that will appear in the relationship, the older boy’s need for physical. Given his age, he will likely have more experience in this field than the younger girl he is with. Boys can not move backwards, sexually. They can only move forward. They can not go from a full on throw-down to nothing but kissing and the occational “oopsies/giggle/gasp.” They may pretend that it’s okay with them at first, but the issue can only be put to rest for a limited time. When in relationships, many girls develop a “whatever it takes” mentality. They will stop at nothing to make the relationship work, no matter how many of their friends or family tell them it’s hopeless, or that they can do “better.” All words that don’t relate back to false hope and denial in the relationship go in one ear and out the other. This mentality means they will do any physical thing the boy wants, or are made to believe he needs through manipulation. They will compromise anything. The pressure put on the younger girl by the older boy is impossible to stand up to.



Next, is how the boy believes he is miles ahead of the girl in maturity. He “thinks” he knows all there is to know about anything that needs to be known. Because he is older, he assumes himself as the superior. She will never win any argument, for he has “been around that block more than a few times.” He will also think he knows how the relationship will play out before anything even happens, becuause he has likely had a few more relationships under his belt –pun intended- than the girl. He will have expectations set that are different that yours. He will not respect her decisions or requests in the relationship because “she doesn’t know how these things work.” His overconfidence in believing he understands the variable will lead to many issues. His supposed “maturity” will always be in the way.



Lastly, the older boy will evidently graduate high school before the younger girl. This will lead him into the world of college or university, which will lead him into a new world containing a variety of other girls, and a full schedual. He will also likely be living hours away. Even with texting, calling and video chats, it can’t replace personal contact. She will continue her high school life without him, and who’s to say she won’t move on? It might not last a month once college time comes, or it might drag out for what seems like a century. But there’s only one garuntee in relationships such as these, and that’s that it will end. Either by fading, or one of the individuals crumbling under the pressure.



It is clear that a high school relationship involving a younger girl and an older boy is doomed to fail. It may be the constant push for physical. It could be his supposed “maturity” that trumps yours. It’s possible it could be him moving on to college. Maybe it will be a combination of all of these. Whatever the reason however, you are building a skyscraper ontop of a sink hole.